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    Getting Invited Up for "Coffee"

    It might get to the stage very quickly that I could get an invite up for "coffee".

    However the lady in question I quite like and don't want this to be just another random.

    I'm somewhat hoping that it doesnt so I can make things a bit more special, however if she really want's "coffee" then I shouldn't refuse right? Or Should I refuse perhaps getting her to respect me more.

    Also she is on the rebound, so I am slightly warey of this also....

    So this is why I am looking for some advice?
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    Drink the coffee, if she's a 'random' then at least you know.

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    sorry but can you honestly give me a random option involving hedgehogs and expect me NOT to click it?

    Easy way to prolong the start would be to say, "can I take you out for coffee (tomorrow/wednesday/sunday etc) at..." and suggest a nice place for a daytime date, eg (depending what you're into) a drive to a national trust place, nice historic town, along the beach etc and buy her nice tea, coffee & cakes kinda thing, lunch whatever.

    Hopefully this manouvre should show her that your intentions are romantic not lustful, that you would like to place the coffee in context of a non threatening date by spending quality time with one another somewhere enjoyable for both of you.

    This way she'll get to know you better, feel safer and respect you more that you are not just wanting to jump into bed with her, and after that feel free to accept any bed-inviting advances as you have already proved that you want her for who she is and her company, not just her body.

    Watch her cues and body language when you're together and allow her to lead, then follow on as you feel comfortable with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scrapheapchallenge View Post
    sorry but can you honestly give me a random option involving hedgehogs and expect me NOT to click it?

    Easy way to prolong the start would be to say, "can I take you out for coffee (tomorrow/wednesday/sunday etc) at..." and suggest a nice place for a daytime date, eg (depending what you're into) a drive to a national trust place, nice historic town, along the beach etc and buy her nice tea, coffee & cakes kinda thing, lunch whatever.

    Hopefully this manouvre should show her that your intentions are romantic not lustful, that you would like to place the coffee in context of a non threatening date by spending quality time with one another somewhere enjoyable for both of you.

    This way she'll get to know you better, feel safer and respect you more that you are not just wanting to jump into bed with her, and after that feel free to accept any bed-inviting advances as you have already proved that you want her for who she is and her company, not just her body.

    Watch her cues and body language when you're together and allow her to lead, then follow on as you feel comfortable with.

    Kirsty
    Already doing that, I suppose I could do one more??

    Ok I am having a look at some places now
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    I'm all about the hedgehogs.

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    Ask for her hand in marriage.

    That'll sort the problem out and her answer will give you a clear indication of her intentions.


    ..it seems to be the done thing these days *cough*

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    depends how long you have been dating this gal. If its couple of dates then drag it out abit. But you also dont want the gal to think your not interested in her,so just try to judge the situation the best you can at the the time.
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    really depends mate on the full situation. only you will know what to do.

    PS. you forgot option f, sod the coffee, do the dead and call a cab. lol
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    lol where did the 5th option come from

    its only a few dates so far, so this is why I don't want to do things too early.

    She's quite unique that she likes all the things I do and really brainy so I don't want to ruin things by doing things to early.

    Anyone else though and it would be anhillated by now
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