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    Angry im angry and need advice

    hey guys dont mean to throw my personal problems at you all but i need opinions/advice. for the past few weeks ive noticed my wife has been texting a lot and changing her passwords on her laptop, i work nights so usualy dont get home until about 4 in the morning so unsure what she does in the meantime. ill text her whilst at work but she takes ages to reply, yet when im home she checks her phone every 5 minutes!

    now im not the sort of person to go snooping but 2 days ago i woke up at about 12 in the afternoon, wife was downstairs hoovering and i was in bed with her phone stairing me in the face, so i decided ill just check to see if the person she said was texting her was who she was but instead found loads of texts from a guy called 'stephen' including 1 that said "really enjoyed tonight sexy, hope we can do it again soon xxx" now at this point i was fuming but didnt know what to do, i love my wife to bits but cant believe she'd do this! so me being me ive kept quiet, mainly because im scared ill loose everything and her.

    now we have paid a lot of money recently to go away (we go in the morning!!) and i dont know whether im going to be able to hide my temper, but as ive caught her doing this before i really dont know what to do, i want to leave her but this is my first long relationship and i havent got a clue how to get out im also scared of being on my own, she doesnt know i have seen the messages but she has noticed i have been in a fowl mood, what would you guys do??
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    Only you can answer the question. Do you confront her, then try to forgive and forget and hope it don't happen for a third time, or tell her to pack her bags. Most people would say the latter and i'd agree

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    You need to think what is best for you mate.
    at the end of the day if it isnt the first time she has done it, and your getting hurt and she doesnt care then id say confront her and give her an ultimatum.

    Because ultimately, you need to look after yourself and think of yourself mate. I assume there are no children involved?

    Think carefully about what your going to do, and if you confront her then try and keep calm. Whatever you do, dont let her turn it around onto you.
    s buckle said id walk away mate. its going to hurt, but if its not the first time then she obviously doesnt care.


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    Dont mean to sound harsh, but confront her!
    See what she has to say now (2nd time) yur the one getting hurt and obvouisly she dont care.

    There are pleaty more fish in the sea.
    Walking away is hard but theres someone one for everyone

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    what net work is her mobile on ??

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    you don't deserve to be mucked about, so take it on the chin and confront her.
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    Ask her who they're from and why they're on her phone.

    or just take a day off work without her knowing and watch your house....
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    If i was you i would just pack my own kit, jump in the car and go on hols, alone, she'll get the message, & hopefully be gone when you come back??

    Of course, while you're away, you won't have to worry about your concience??
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    just talk to her an find out whats going on
    how old is she ?
    some ons is going to say post some pics "andy" of the wife

    sort it out for the best

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    i agree with most, you have to confront her. Try and keep calm as she'll use that anger against you somehow.... i don't know how but they got skills!

    Sounds like your getting hurt really badly mate, and to be honest you don't deserve it, and if it were me i would of walked away. I know you love her very much but the other question is, does she love you in the same way? If not, it's going to hurt alot, but best thing to do is get away from her. Happened to me....but that was in school, so walking away was alot easier.

    When confronting her don't mention about you checking her messages until she refuses to answer, or she's givin you the wrong persons name. otherwise the subject will be changed to "you've been checking up on me by my phone?!?! etc etc..." although to be honest it'll be probably be changed to that reguardless.
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