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    I should let it go but I can't gosh damn it......

    Right heres the story:

    Back in High school I knew this girl. Fancied her throughout the course of school into 6 form. She knew I fancied her but we remained good friends. It was not just an attraction thing she had a great personality.

    Once we left 6th form I left without her number mainly because I was too shy back then and had zero confidence. I never asked her out.

    Let's skip to now. Its probably 5 years since I left school, went to uni, got my confidence, been out with a few ladies since then, however for some reason I still always think what if, I wonder what she is doing now, is there still a chance.

    For me she is the benchmark for which I compare all ladies.

    Now I know this seems a little sad and creepy but about 20 minutes ago I just woke up all dazed dreaming about her. It's every few weeks that I do...

    I think I can accept if she is off married with kids and I can probably move on but its the uncertaintity which is really screwing me about.

    I've checked on facebook and I can see her brother who I knew but only for the reason that I was friends with her so if I added him out of the blue I think either he would not remember me or he would think I was only interested in one thing....which is correct.

    I do know where she lived back in school

    What should I do??
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    Contact her brother on face book and say you want to catch up with his sister.
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    Sounds sweet - the whole first love thing - bless ya xx

    Definitely get in touch with the brother

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    Keep in mind that she may no longer be the same person. People change over time so be prepared that the image of how you remember her may be shattered if you chase this.
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    You can view his friends without adding him i believe, so if she is on facebook then u could find her that way without involving the brother!

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    I say find her and find out. If you don't it may haunt you for a long long time!

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    I'd send a message to her bro....something very brief....."hiya just came across ur prof....i used to be good mates with ur sister at school.....just wondered how your both getting on?"

    If he replies she married....sorted! If he replies she not you could say something like....."tell her i was asking about her and say hi for me"

    Then if it's meant to be she'll be in touch......provided he tells her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Minxy View Post
    Keep in mind that she may no longer be the same person. People change over time so be prepared that the image of how you remember her may be shattered if you chase this.
    Yep, she could now be called Alan

    Sorry, I couldnt help it.

    On a serious note though, I would try to get in contact via her brother, get the general background, see if shes married etc, then either back off if she is, or go for it if she isnt


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    Quote Originally Posted by tamsinfindlay View Post
    I'd send a message to her bro....something very brief....."hiya just came across ur prof....i used to be good mates with ur sister at school.....just wondered how your both getting on?"
    Or if you don't want to look like an idiot, try:

    "Hi, I just came across your profile. I used to be good mates with your sister at school and was wondering how you're both getting on?"

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    I was in the same situation..mine turned up on myspace with a baby and long term partner which wasn't great :P
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